How is your therapist doing?

Many clients (and people in general) become curious about the therapists they are talking to especially as the therapeutic relationship builds.  Indeed sometimes a client may bump into their therapist outside the therapy room, out shopping, with their family etc.

All sorts of questions seem to emerge – has my therapist children?  what issues have they experienced themselves?  What brought them to this vocation? How much money are they making from this?

While in many modalities  limited self disclosure does occur within the therapeutic relationship the process is obviously not focused on the therapist.

This article explores the issue from the perspective of a practitioner in private practice in Ireland and highlights issues many therapists will relate to.  Might have some answers for those curious too!

 

Parenting – child development & learning about success & failure

The below article from therapist & author Stella O’Malley explores the topic of achievement in children,  and the interaction of their resilience, mental health & exam pressure.

An interesting point is made on fostering a “growth” as opposed to a “fixed” mindset in young people – based on the work of Sanford professor of psychology Carol Dweck.

Talk Therapy Dublin meets clients presenting in their late teens and 20’s struggling with the results of this experience, often with significant depression, anxiety & substance abuse issues.

We also have regular experience of adult clients struggling to do right by their children but this very struggle being the source of issues. One common example is an over the top extra curricular activity schedule from a young age leaving little time for exploratory play, trial & error and indeed family time.  Another common theme is how “failure” is presented & handled within a family.

  • Is it an opportunity to learn & for support?
  •  Should it be avoided at all costs??
  • If a child shows an interest in music, should they immediately be enrolled in formal lessons multiple times a week?
  • What is like for working parents to have to bring children to multiple extra curricular events every week/weekend.
  • Is there much family time after parents work, school, homework & activities?

https://www.independent.ie/life/irish-psychotherapist-stella-omalley-success-isnt-everything-kids-need-to-learn-from-failure-too-36609373.html

How relevant is the type (or school) of psychotherapy my therapist uses?

With so many forms of psychotherapy in use in Ireland & beyond it can be daunting knowing which might be best for you.  Often there is misinformation and “flavor of the month” therapies being pushed too which may not work for specific clients with specific issues.

Here is an  article highlighting the importance of the relationship between client and therapist in terms of successful outcomes.  The school of therapy the practitioner employs (CBT, Person Centered, Gestalt etc)  is less important.

This is an important point for clients to consider when choosing a therapist.

 

How do I find the right therapist?

Client often report having difficulty finding the right services and indeed the right therapist when in a state of distress.  Often GP’s and many other services are just as confused.

Here is an informative article for those considering starting Psychotherapy from the Irish Times

http://www.irishtimes.com/life-and-style/health-family/therapy-unlocked-a-guide-to-finding-the-right-therapist-for-you-1.2055346