Parenting – child development & learning about success & failure

The below article from therapist & author Stella O’Malley explores the topic of achievement in children,  and the interaction of their resilience, mental health & exam pressure.

An interesting point is made on fostering a “growth” as opposed to a “fixed” mindset in young people – based on the work of Sanford professor of psychology Carol Dweck.

Talk Therapy Dublin meets clients presenting in their late teens and 20’s struggling with the results of this experience, often with significant depression, anxiety & substance abuse issues.

We also have regular experience of adult clients struggling to do right by their children but this very struggle being the source of issues. One common example is an over the top extra curricular activity schedule from a young age leaving little time for exploratory play, trial & error and indeed family time.  Another common theme is how “failure” is presented & handled within a family.

  • Is it an opportunity to learn & for support?
  •  Should it be avoided at all costs??
  • If a child shows an interest in music, should they immediately be enrolled in formal lessons multiple times a week?
  • What is like for working parents to have to bring children to multiple extra curricular events every week/weekend.
  • Is there much family time after parents work, school, homework & activities?

https://www.independent.ie/life/irish-psychotherapist-stella-omalley-success-isnt-everything-kids-need-to-learn-from-failure-too-36609373.html

Coming off medication – can counselling help?

The below article by Ceire Sadlier describes her experience involving both Doctors and Counsellors as she gradually decided to come off medication for anxiety & depression.

She describes something that many clients can feel namely the pressure to “come off” medication which can be unhelpful and in some cases dangerous if not managed correctly.

The article also describes an initial negative (and expensive) experience when looking for counselling support.  This is something many clients describe which underlines the need for clients to research their therapists and to look around until they find one which fits and where a therapeutic relationship can develop.

What may work for one client in terms of a therapist may not necessarily work for another.  Therapists have been trained in different modalities and also often have specific specialties and post qualification training in specific areas.  All questions to ask about when making contact.

https://www.irishtimes.com/life-and-style/health-family/it-is-three-months-since-i-took-the-last-anti-depressant-1.3275077

Mental Health in the Workplace – Thriving at Work Report

This week saw the publication of the Thriving at Work Report in the United Kingdom.

The report reveals the extent of the human cost of poor mental health at work and the impacts on society, the economy and the government.

It also provides a set of six core standards for employers to adopt and implement to support mental health in the workplace. These standards include imperatives to

    • Build mental health awareness by making information and support accessible
    • Encourage open conversations
    • Provide good working conditions and ensure employees have a healthy work-life balance
    • Promote effective people management, with line managers holding regular conversations about health and well-being with their staff
  • Routinely monitor employee mental health

A similar report in an Irish context would be interesting as the same issues ravage Irish workers on a daily basis across both public and private sectors.

Battling Burnout?

Burnout is something  many clients visit a counsellor for – often describing it in relation to work and family commitments.

Of course there can be more to it than that and as this  article from the Irish Times articulates, an exact definition is elusive.

Here is another relevant article on the issue.

Our brief mental health checkup is a simple way to provide a structured reflective space to examine how you may be feeling in terms of your mental health overall.